Episode 11: What Should Be Taboo - Bad Poetry or Jealousy in Friendships?

Episode 11 is now available here

 Jealousy is considered to be a taboo topic in friendships, but, in this episode, Alysa blows the dust off her sinfully bad poetry from 2000 to introduce the problems she noticed in her friendships related to this topic. Turns out not everyone is good at writing poetry, but we’re all likely to experience jealousy in our friendships so what can we do about it? Alysa defines jealousy, discusses ways in which jealousy occurs in friendships, and talks to researchers Valerie Cronin-Fisher and Clare Gross about their exploration of the experience and expression of jealousy in friendship. Come for the horrendous poetry; stay for the sound advice.    Citations for this Episode   Guerrero, L. K., & Andersen, P. A. (1998). The dark side of jealousy and envy: Desire, delusion, desperation, and destructive communication. In B. H. Spitzberg & W. R. Cupach (Eds.),  The dark side of close relationships  (pp. 33-70) Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.    
  
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  Lucas, A. A., & Morrison, K. (2005).  Jealousy in female friendships: Exploring the relationship between attributions and communication.  Paper presented at the Interpersonal Communication Division of the National Communication Association Convention, Boston.       
  
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  Lucas, A. A. (2015).  The experience and expression of jealousy in college-aged friendships.  Poster presented at the Relationships, Health, & Wellness mini-conference sponsored by the International Association of Relationship Research in New Brunswick, New Jersey.    
  
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  Lucas, A. A., & Lara, L. R. (2008).  Relationship exclusivity in romantic relationships and friendships: Coping with a relational threat.  Paper presented at the Interpersonal Communication Division of National Communication Association Convention, San Diego.        Parker, J. G., Low, C. M., Walker, A. R., & Gamm, B. K. (2005). Friendship jealousy in young adolescents: Individual differences and links to sex, self-esteem, aggression, and social adjustment.  Developmental Psychology, 41 (1), 235-250.  Rawlins, W. K. (1992). Friendship matters: Communication, dialectics, and the life course. New York, NY: Aldine de Gruyter.

Jealousy is considered to be a taboo topic in friendships, but, in this episode, Alysa blows the dust off her sinfully bad poetry from 2000 to introduce the problems she noticed in her friendships related to this topic. Turns out not everyone is good at writing poetry, but we’re all likely to experience jealousy in our friendships so what can we do about it? Alysa defines jealousy, discusses ways in which jealousy occurs in friendships, and talks to researchers Valerie Cronin-Fisher and Clare Gross about their exploration of the experience and expression of jealousy in friendship. Come for the horrendous poetry; stay for the sound advice. 

Citations for this Episode

Guerrero, L. K., & Andersen, P. A. (1998). The dark side of jealousy and envy: Desire, delusion, desperation, and destructive communication. In B. H. Spitzberg & W. R. Cupach (Eds.), The dark side of close relationships (pp. 33-70) Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.

Lucas, A. A., & Morrison, K. (2005). Jealousy in female friendships: Exploring the relationship between attributions and communication. Paper presented at the Interpersonal Communication Division of the National Communication Association Convention, Boston.

Lucas, A. A. (2015). The experience and expression of jealousy in college-aged friendships. Poster presented at the Relationships, Health, & Wellness mini-conference sponsored by the International Association of Relationship Research in New Brunswick, New Jersey.

Lucas, A. A., & Lara, L. R. (2008). Relationship exclusivity in romantic relationships and friendships: Coping with a relational threat. Paper presented at the Interpersonal Communication Division of National Communication Association Convention, San Diego.

Parker, J. G., Low, C. M., Walker, A. R., & Gamm, B. K. (2005). Friendship jealousy in young adolescents: Individual differences and links to sex, self-esteem, aggression, and social adjustment. Developmental Psychology, 41(1), 235-250.

Rawlins, W. K. (1992). Friendship matters: Communication, dialectics, and the life course. New York, NY: Aldine de Gruyter.