E57: Friend Zone?

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Getting “friend zoned” is a trendy way to talk about a painful experience called unrequited love. Falling in love, especially with a friend, who does not reciprocate our feelings can hurt ourselves, our loved one, the friendship, and any (but not usually) potential romantic relationship. This week, Alysa dives into the implications of calling rejection the “friend zone” and someone “just” friends as well as outlines the frequent problematic gendered stereotypes associated with these ideas. Putting the mirror up to our faces may be like opening up a wound, but it can also be an agonizing discussion ripe for growth and acceptance. 

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Boobies & Noobies= https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/boobies-noobies/id1408297016?mt=2

Sources

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Friendzone

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201112/escape-the-friend-zone-friend-girlfriend-or-boyfriend

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201302/avoiding-the-friend-zone-becoming-girlfriend-or-boyfriend

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Unrequited%20Love

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/201502/6-ways-get-past-the-pain-unrequited-love

https://www.amazon.com/Rules-TM-Time-Tested-Secrets-Capturing-ebook/dp/B002UGU36S

Love Actually Scene= https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B7u6bMBlCXw&t=37s

Pretty in Pink Scene= https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9rOvNBXxYXk&t=152s

Bratslavsky, E., Baumeister, R. F., & Sommer, K. L. (1998). To love or be loved in vain: The trials and tribulations of unrequited love. In B. H. Spitzberg & W. R. Cupach (1998), The dark side of close relationships(pp. 307-326). Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.

E56: Best Forevers Book Club - Aren't We All Sons of Gods?

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 In this Best Forevers Book Club episode, Claire makes Alysa learn all about Greek Mythology by reading the  Percy Jackson and the Olympians series by Rick Riordan from her young adulthood. We discuss the first book,  The Lightning Thief , as young Percy learns more about his life as a son of a god and going on a quest with his friends, Grover and Annabeth, to retrieve Zeus’s master lightning bolt while fulfilling the Oracle’s prophecy. They discuss the Book Club’s first male protagonist, mixed gender friendships, and how friends must collaborate to solve problems. So, nerds and children of gods, join us for the mythology, snark, and, of course, friendship!   Share Your Friendship Stories with Alysa!    Visit the podcast web page for topics =  www.bestforeverspod.com/surveys    Email Alysa =  bestforeverspod@gmail.com    Follow Best Forevers Pod!    Facebook  =  https://www.facebook.com/groups/bestforeverspod/    Instagram =  https://www.instagram.com/bestforeverspod/    Twitter  =  https://twitter.com/BestForeversPod    Support Best Forevers Pod!    Patreon =  www.patreon.com/bestforeverspod    Merchandise  =  https://bestforeverspod.threadless.com    Art Work by Kate Cosgrove =  http://k8cosgrove.blogspot.com    Theme Music by Trevor Wilson    Promo from this Episode!    Hidden Staircase=  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hidden-staircase/id1278324808?mt=2

In this Best Forevers Book Club episode, Claire makes Alysa learn all about Greek Mythology by reading the Percy Jackson and the Olympiansseries by Rick Riordan from her young adulthood. We discuss the first book, The Lightning Thief, as young Percy learns more about his life as a son of a god and going on a quest with his friends, Grover and Annabeth, to retrieve Zeus’s master lightning bolt while fulfilling the Oracle’s prophecy. They discuss the Book Club’s first male protagonist, mixed gender friendships, and how friends must collaborate to solve problems. So, nerds and children of gods, join us for the mythology, snark, and, of course, friendship!

Share Your Friendship Stories with Alysa!

Visit the podcast web page for topics= www.bestforeverspod.com/surveys

Email Alysa= bestforeverspod@gmail.com

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Art Work by Kate Cosgrove= http://k8cosgrove.blogspot.com

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Promo from this Episode!

Hidden Staircase=https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hidden-staircase/id1278324808?mt=2

E55: Friendsgiving

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Happy Thanksgiving! And, maybe more importantly to this podcast, Happy Friendsgiving! As we all celebrate Turkey Day, continue to enjoy those leftovers, and look forward to upcoming holidays, Alysa considers the role and impact of Friendsgiving holiday with her friend Tierney! They chat about why Friendsgiving has become a more common event, favorite drinks and pies to eat at said events, and what they’re thankful about this year. Alysa also provides advice for enjoying friends and holidays when celebrating together is difficult or not possible. So, grab some stuffing and come join in on the friendship fun!

 

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Spoop Hour = https://spoophour.podbean.com

Sources

The Dollop Thanksgiving Episode http://thedollop.libsyn.com/35-thanksgiving

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/11/millennials-friendsgiving-history/575941/

https://www.vox.com/2018/11/16/18097351/friendsgiving-2018-history

E54: Kindred Spirits with Director Kevin Sullivan

Dear Diary, I interviewed Kevin Sullivan who directed my favorite movie, Anne of Green Gables. Check it out here.

 For Alysa, the 1985  Anne of Green Gables movie, directed by Kevin Sullivan imprinted on her heart and has provided a strong foundation for her love friendship in her personal and professional lives. Thus, it was with great joy to be able to sit down with the Emmy and Peabody award-winning director to discuss the process of translating L.M. Montgomery’s stories to screen, finding the talent that brought the characters to life, and, perhaps most importantly, understanding the role of friendship in all aspects of life. Come join us as we head down The Avenue, or more aptly described as The White Way of Delight, to appreciate our girl, Anne Shirley.   Follow & Visit Sullivan Entertainment!    https://sullivanmovies.com    https://gazebotv.com    Facebook =  https://www.facebook.com/gazebotv/    Twitter  =  https://twitter.com/Gazebo_TV    Learn More about Kevin Sullivan!    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kevin_Sullivan_(producer)    https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0838195/      Share Your Friendship Stories with Alysa!    Visit the podcast web page for topics =  www.bestforeverspod.com/surveys    Email Alysa =  bestforeverspod@gmail.com      Follow Best Forevers Pod!    Facebook  =  https://www.facebook.com/groups/bestforeverspod/    Instagram =  https://www.instagram.com/bestforeverspod/    Twitter  =  https://twitter.com/BestForeversPod      Support Best Forevers Pod!    Patreon =  www.patreon.com/bestforeverspod    Merchandise  =  https://bestforeverspod.threadless.com    One-Time Donation for Buddy Benches  = PayPal.Me/bestforeverpod     Art Work by Kate Cosgrove =  http://k8cosgrove.blogspot.com    Theme Music by Trevor Wilson      Promo from this Episode!    The Exploress Podcast =   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-exploress-podcast/id1414693252?mt=2

For Alysa, the 1985 Anne of Green Gablesmovie, directed by Kevin Sullivan imprinted on her heart and has provided a strong foundation for her love friendship in her personal and professional lives. Thus, it was with great joy to be able to sit down with the Emmy and Peabody award-winning director to discuss the process of translating L.M. Montgomery’s stories to screen, finding the talent that brought the characters to life, and, perhaps most importantly, understanding the role of friendship in all aspects of life. Come join us as we head down The Avenue, or more aptly described as The White Way of Delight, to appreciate our girl, Anne Shirley.

Follow & Visit Sullivan Entertainment!

https://sullivanmovies.com

https://gazebotv.com

Facebook= https://www.facebook.com/gazebotv/

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Learn More about Kevin Sullivan!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kevin_Sullivan_(producer)

https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0838195/

Share Your Friendship Stories with Alysa!

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Theme Music by Trevor Wilson

Promo from this Episode!

The Exploress Podcast = https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-exploress-podcast/id1414693252?mt=2

E53: Coffee Brews Friendship

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Grab your coziest mug of your favorite coffee and have a listen to Alysa chat with dear friend and coffee enthusiast, Alisun, about how friendship is at the heart of the coffee world! Coffee brings people together whether it be baristas working together to make your daily fix, baristas chatting with regulars from the steaming station, or friends coming together to chat over a warm or iced cup of coffee. If we want to see human connection and friendship, check out a coffee shop or invite a friend over for coffee and good conversation! 

Links to Coffee Shops/Roasters, Articles, and Puns Discussed in Episode!

My Favorite Mugs are from Chicalookatehttp://www.chicalookate.com

26 Surprising Facts About Coffee https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/health/diet-nutrition/a30303/facts-about-coffee/

Coffee Puns= Search on Google Images for all discussed!

517 Coffee Companyhttp://www.517coffeecompany.com

Biggby Coffeehttps://www.biggby.com  

Blue Owl Coffee Co.https://www.blueowlcoffee.net

Duck Rabbit Coffeehttps://www.duckrabbitcoffee.com

Ponder Coffee Companyhttps://www.pondercoffee.co

Strange Matter Coffee Co.http://strangemattercoffee.com

 

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Promo from this Episode!

The Cutaways Podcast= https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-cutaways-podcast/id1018986461?mt=2

E52: Difficult Conversations with Paul Gilmartin

Check out the new episode of Best Forevers here.

 Alysa welcomes the charmingly authentic host of  Mental Illness Happy Hour , Paul Gilmartin, to chat about the intersection of mental health, trauma, communication, and relationships. In this episode, Paul discusses his journey through trauma, recovery, and his purpose in life. Through honest discussion, we can begin to destigmatize mental health, learn how we can be better friends to those struggling, and recognize we are not alone.  Warning: The content may be a trigger for some listeners so please decide if listening to this episode is best for you.     If you need help, please reach out to one of these resources!    National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  = 1-800-273-8255;  https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org    National Sexual Assault Hotline = 1-800-656-4673;  https://www.rainn.org/      Listen to Mental Illness Happy Hour!    https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2    Follow Mental Illness Happy Hour!    Web Page =  http://mentalpod.com   Facebook =  https://www.facebook.com/mentalpod/    Instagram =  https://www.instagram.com/mentalpod/    Twitter =  https://twitter.com/mentalpod      Share Your Friendship Stories with Alysa!    Visit the podcast web page for topics =  www.bestforeverspod.com/surveys    Email Alysa =  bestforeverspod@gmail.com    Follow Best Forevers Pod!    Facebook  =  https://www.facebook.com/groups/bestforeverspod/    Instagram =  https://www.instagram.com/bestforeverspod/    Twitter  =  https://twitter.com/BestForeversPod    Support Best Forevers Pod!    Patreon =  www.patreon.com/bestforeverspod    Merchandise  =  https://bestforeverspod.threadless.com    One-Time Donation for Buddy Benches  = PayPal.Me/bestforeverpod     Art Work by Kate Cosgrove =  http://k8cosgrove.blogspot.com    Theme Music by Trevor Wilson      Promo from this Episode!    Ignorance was Bliss =   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ignorance-was-bliss/id1341566170?mt=2

Alysa welcomes the charmingly authentic host of Mental Illness Happy Hour, Paul Gilmartin, to chat about the intersection of mental health, trauma, communication, and relationships. In this episode, Paul discusses his journey through trauma, recovery, and his purpose in life. Through honest discussion, we can begin to destigmatize mental health, learn how we can be better friends to those struggling, and recognize we are not alone. Warning:The content may be a trigger for some listeners so please decide if listening to this episode is best for you.

If you need help, please reach out to one of these resources!

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline = 1-800-273-8255; https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org

National Sexual Assault Hotline= 1-800-656-4673; https://www.rainn.org/

Listen to Mental Illness Happy Hour!

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2

Follow Mental Illness Happy Hour!

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Art Work by Kate Cosgrove= http://k8cosgrove.blogspot.com

Theme Music by Trevor Wilson

Promo from this Episode!

Ignorance was Bliss = https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ignorance-was-bliss/id1341566170?mt=2

 

E51: Haunted

Alysa covers ghosting as part of her Halloween-themed episode, E51: Haunted!

One day your friends and, then…poof, they’re gone. Have you ever been ghosted? In this episode, Alysa explores listener stories, academic research, and advice across the web for understanding and coping with being ghosters and ghostees. So, settle in for the spookiest friendship topic Alysa can think to consider this Halloween. Ghosting can be absolutely devastating, but ‘tis the season to creep it real because how can we move on if we cannot talk about it? 

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Promo from this Episode!

Short Stories of Augie Peterson = https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/short-stories-of-augie-peterson/id1345483321?mt=2

 

Sources from this Episode!

Ghosting by D. Anonymous= https://itunes.apple.com/kg/album/ghosting/1230119715

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/01463370409370178

http://citation.allacademic.com/meta/p_mla_apa_research_citation/2/5/7/3/9/p257393_index.html?phpsessid=ccb26c3058ca5d4adcb973f1f0ab0d44

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/317576909_Phantom_Lovers_Ghosting_as_a_Relationship_Dissolution_Strategy_in_the_Technological_Age

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Ghosting

https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/relationships/ghosting-a-friend

https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/930e6df4-582b-4ec0-bc21-cb26613cd6f1

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/to-my-best-friend-i-know-why-you-ghosted-me_us_5966290ee4b0deab7c646d03

https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/real-life/like-oldest-friend-phases/

http://time.com/4779713/friendship-ghosting/

https://hellogiggles.com/lifestyle/friend-ghosted-you/

https://www.nbcnews.com/better/pop-culture/how-get-over-being-ghosted-ncna904776

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-forward/201511/is-why-ghosting-hurts-so-much

https://www.tampabay.com/features/relationships/Tell-Me-About-It-Friend-s-inability-to-make-plans-feels-like-ghosting_172509538

E50: Ope. Freezing. Gucci.

Here’s the link to episode FIFTY!

Ope. Meet friends, Mitch and Zach, who make the most of all their time together whether commiserating about a bad roommate, watching vines, and making too many jokes. You might think they’re speaking a different language, but it’s their friendship language and Alysa gets to the bottom of all their private jokes, so we can feel like we’re part of their in-group even if for a short amount of time. Um, freezing. So, join in the fun and discussion of Lady Gaga, Eighth Grade, and how to use humor to get through conflict. Gucci. 

 

A Star is BornSoundtrack https://open.spotify.com/album/4sLtOBOzn4s3GDUv3c5oJD?si=ngESQlohQ8q06BSePvGAEA

Eighth GradeTrailerhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8lFgF_IjPw

I Sold Sixty Boxeshttps://youtu.be/xnG6U-2-1pI

Atlanta Grape Ladyhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THfiHQZVSw0

It’s an Avocado https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k-cavEKkirc

 

Share Your Friendship Stories with Alysa!

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Art Work by Kate Cosgrovehttp://k8cosgrove.blogspot.com 

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Promo from this Episode!

Amanda Picture Show A Go Go = https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/amandas-picture-show-a-go-go/id1147667359?mt=2